Ken Sande, in his book The
Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict outlines
the four promises of forgiveness:
- I will not dwell on this incident.
- I will not bring up this incident again and use
it against you.
- I will not talk to others about this incident.
- I will not let this incident stand between us or
hinder our personal relationship.
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